Parents' relationship and sex education questions answered

Relationship & sex education FAQs
At BigTalk Education we run sessions for parents almost every day and we find that many parents have the same questions and concerns. We have answered some of the most common questions below. However, we encourage every parent of a primary school child to attend our parents session, at your school when we visit, so we can answer your questions about your child.

Frequently asked questions

Why start early?
  • Because it’s easier and safeguarding from an early age is essential.
  • Young children are fabulous, as all parents know they ask loads of questions, not least of all about their bodies and your body!
  • If they are asking questions they deserve answers.
  • Ask yourself how would you like your children to learn about their bodies, their relationships and how babies are made?
Sex Education at four, surely not?
  • Relationship & Sex Education is an umbrella term used to describe a whole host of topics not just reproduction; some things are vital for even a four-year-old to be aware of, for example good and bad touches.
  • Age appropriateness is the key, using the words, resources and approach that is most effective when addressing the issues relevant to their age as they grow and mature.
Relationship and sex education is the job of the parents, why are you here?
  • Not all Parents/Carers feel confident or knowledgeable, scared they may say too much or too little plus virtually all Parents think it is will be covered at School at some point.
  • Not all Teachers feel adequately trained and confident to deliver a rapidly changing subject that may compromise their knowledge and question their values.
  • Relationship & sex education as a subject became statutory in ALL Schools from September 2020. We are asked into Schools to support Staff,  Parents and the children, we all need to work together to keep children safe.
Won’t relationship and sex education take away the children’s innocence?
  • Nothing takes away innocence quicker then sexual abuse.
  • Knowledge about their bodies won’t stop them wanting to fly kites, go sledging or make sand castles.
  • When body science is discussed they just add it to their knowledge bank, it is often us as adults that have the concerns.
  • The world is changing and protecting our children with age appropriate information about risk is vital.
Why do children need to know the words penis and vagina?
  • It is really important that children know the correct scientific names for their genitals along with other parts of their bodies.
  • In the event of them ever being inappropriately touched they have the vocabulary to give exact information.
  • For example, “they touched my Minnie/tuppence/flower” is very vague as opposed to “they touched my vagina”.
  • Child abusers prefer uneducated children – those who don’t have the words and knowledge of what’s right and wrong.
  • Research shows that an educated child is three times more likely to speak out if they are subjected to abuse.
Do children really need sex education? I didn’t have sex education when I was at School.
  • When today’s adults were at School the world was a very different place, no mobile phones with cameras, no sexting, no easy available access to pornography or strangers via the Internet.
  • It is imperative we educate children to be aware of the risks, so they know to come to trusted adults with their questions about their bodies, relationships and sex etc. rather than the internet.
Our family have a strong faith and we don't want our children to know these things.

At BigTalk Education we work with schools and families with a wide range of faiths. We give children and young people, age appropriate factual information, delivered in a calm and gentle way. Unfortunately, abusers have no regard or respect for religion or family beliefs, so it is important that all children are given this type of education. With the ease of access to unreliable sources of information on every computer and smart phone, it is important that children know that they can speak to their trusted adults about all topics. Because if we do not educate them, they will look for the information in places (and from people) that are not reliable sources and that could put them at risk. Please have a read through our information on how our work complements school and family values on our Faith School page and come along to our parents session to discuss any specific concerns with our team.

How can I find out more?
  • BigTalk Education have published a book Bodies, Babies and Bellybuttons for use with four year olds and upwards, also suitable for special educational needs pupils and those on the Autism spectrum.

Introduction to age appropriate RSE

Our guide to high quality, age appropriate relationship and sex education for your child, helping you know what to expect from us.

Parents’ of spectrum children: FAQs

Information for children on the autism spectrum and related disorders, including why high quality RSE is vital for your child.

Parents’ of SEND children: FAQs

Information for parents of special educational needs and disabled children, including our mainstream and special school programmes.

Parents’ feedback on the Growing Up Safe programme

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Request information on BigTalk Education's services for your school

Introduction to age appropriate RSE

Our guide to high quality, age appropriate Relationship & Sex Education for your child, helping you know what to expect from us.

BigTalk Education's Growing Up Safe Programme

Children want their parents to be the first people to talk to them about growing up, sex and relationships. Yet many parents say they lack confidence to answer their children's questions frankly, Schools are there to help, and BigTalk Education are here to support Schools and Teachers. Members of the BigTalk Team can come into School for a part or whole day, ensuring your children (and you as parents) are well educated to keep them safe, healthy and happy! Find out more > 


BigTalk Education's RSE Lessons for Life

Our Programme in Secondary Schools uses a Youth Work approach to RSE delivery, participation, empowerment and inclusion are fundamental to its success. Our Team fosters a non-judgmental, relaxed, receptive atmosphere, which doesn’t shy away from sensitive issues.


Bodies, Babies & Bellybuttons

This book is a gentle introduction for children about their bodies and where they come from. A must have for all parents to help answer your children's questions in a simple, understandable and age appropriate way.